"....if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also MUST do." Col.3:13b
It's not optional, nor is there a "unique circumstance" or person who is immune from God's command. Jesus also warned if we do not forgive ,we will not be forgiven -Mat.6:15. How do you enter Heaven if you're not forgiven? I like C.S. Lewis quote:
— 'To be a Christian means to forgive the inexcusable because God has forgiven the inexcusable in you.'
This sounds harsh but DO NOT call yourself a "Christian" if you refuse to forgive even one person (or at the least, repent now if you do claim Christ). Forgiveness is part of being a Christian just like breathing is part of being human. I do not say this without knowing what it's like to be deeply hurt and betrayed, I was nearly stabbed to death by my own father, so I am not speaking as a naive person who "doesn't understand" what you're going through. It's hard, but possible if you remember all that Christ forgave you and how it cost His life to forgive you, then give it to Him. If you think you "haven't been that bad," or as bad as the offender, so it'st not the same, just remember your sin was enough to put Jesus on the cross too. If I can forgive my father, if Christ can forgive you, what is your excuse? Will your excuse stand against scripture successfully in judgement? No. Do not hold people (or yourself) hostage to your resentment that you have no right to hold, regardless of who you are or your circumstance. Taste the freedom of forgiveness and move on!
"Blessed are the merciful, for they shall receive mercy." Mat.5:7
